Forgive and Forget: Lessons you learn only after Breakup in Love

Breakup is hard, but its lessons are enlightening. That is the beauty of life – you always find truth in paradox.

1. Actually, it's not about them

It's about us. Break up exposes lots of insecurities that have been residing inside us. Once you make an effort to tackle your inside babies, you actually realize breakup is all about us – not about them. It gives you scope for personal growth and makes you a lot stronger as an individual. However, never repeat the same mistakes again.

Lesson 2: Whatever happens, happens for the best

Can you count the number of times someone reiterated this to you? There's a reason for it. It makes you believe in the positives of everything and is easier to move on to greater things. Put behind those heart-breaking memories and simply accept the fact that some things are just not meant to happen because there are better things coming your way. Just like a snake sheds its skin to make way for another, you need to let go of the bitter memories to make space for happier ones!

Lesson 3: Forgive and forget

Not a lot of people have mastered the art of forgiving and neither do a lot of people know that its also a way to find peace and happiness within you. The longer you hold grudges against someone, the longer you hold the bitterness in yourself that makes you negative. Do yourself a favour and cut yourself some slack! Forgive your ex, and be the bigger person. This will only help you grow and surpass the emotional obstacles and blocks you have created for yourself! Like Oprah Winfrey once famously said, "True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience." Forgive and forget!

Lesson 4: There is no greater love than self-love

Often in relationships, one tends to neglect their own happiness for their partner's sake. This may sometimes lead to feelings that make you feel neglected, unappreciated and unwanted. While the individual might think it's because the partner isn't giving them the required attention, its actually the other way around. It's the lack of self-love that makes you feel underappreciated. The time post your breakup gives you ample time to introspect and understand what you want and how you can make the best out of this heartbreak. If you love yourself enough, you will never feel the need for another person to come swooping in and love you. You are enough!

Lesson 5: Life is just not about love

While it may have felt like there's nothing more important than your relationship, you will start noticing that there's life beyond all this. You will believe that love is not your life, it's just a part of your life and you will start witnessing the changes yourself! Friendships, families, people you may have met on your ride to work or had a chat with someone over a cup of coffee, life is all about this! So, move on, girl!