Shouting at partner can damage relationship
Even the best relationships have some amount of drama at one time or another. However, certain types of drama are not good. If you're in a relationship with someone who exhibits behaviour that's affecting your self-esteem, you just don't feel like yourself lately, or you've been concerned about your personal safety, these are significant clues you've met your threshold for what is tolerable.
Are you unsure about whether you should try to tough it out with your partner? It's time to pay attention to some of the signs. Here are some types of drama no one should tolerate in a relationship.
Yelling
We all get angry every now and then, but once your partner gets to the point where he or she starts to yell, a line has been crossed. No one should be yelling at you, especially not someone who claims to love you. If shouting has become a routine form of expression for your partner, this drama needs to be addressed. You deserve love and respect, and yelling demonstrates neither. It shows your partner lacks enough self-control to have a calm, adult discussion. It also shows disregard for your feelings.
Cheating
One of the most common types of relationship drama is cheating. Sometimes you have your suspicions, so it's not a surprise. A cheating partner generally can't be trusted. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who keeps cheating on you? If you're that desperate to make things work, it's important for you to take a look at yourself and discover why you would be willing to put up with blatant disrespect. Perhaps you're afraid of being alone or you think you can't do better. Whatever your reason, if you don't get to the bottom of your poor choices, you'll continue to attract people who don't have your best interest at heart.
Lying
It's very difficult to fully trust someone when you repeatedly catch that person in a lie. It also shows a lack of respect. If your loved one is constantly lying to you and hiding things from you, there's a good chance he or she doesn't respect you. We all fib from time to time, but if you're noticing a pattern and your partner doesn't genuinely seem sorry for telling lies, this is a big problem.
Selfishness
Both partners should enjoy all the benefits that come along with a loving, caring relationship. It isn't fair if only one person benefits. If you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't know how to be generous, it's time you stood up for yourself. However, instead of stewing silently, have a talk with your partner. Let him or her know you don't feel like there is a fair amount of give and take in the relationship. If your partner is unwilling to change, then it's time to move on.
Physical abuse
There is no room in any relationship for physical or emotional abuse. It can be subtle in the beginning and then get progressively worse. Domestic violence doesn't look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to have more power and control over their partners. Abusive behaviour not only erodes your self-esteem but could also put your life in danger.