Thoughts killing mindful sex

In 2011, researchers  at Brown University, US, found that women who practised mindfulness during sex got more aroused and get faster compared to women who didn’t. Mindful sex involves being able to experience the sensations taking place in your body and mind, making it easier to turn off autopilot mode.

Further, in 2013, French sexologist Marie Geonet and her colleagues assessed  40 different researchers on the impact negative thoughts can have, and concluded that they have play an important role in causing sexual dysfunction in women.

But knowing all this doesn’t really get the job done. If you need help turning your mind off during sex, then you’ve come to the right place. All you have to do is .

Take a deep breath

Begin by taking a deep breath and slowing down your other reflexes. This will help you relax and focus on the sensations taking place in your body. Focusing on the physical will keep your mind centred and ready for pleasure.

Get wet! Get in the shower

For some women sex is stressful if the timing or location are off she might proceed because she doesn’t want to hurt her partners feelings, but the whole process becomes mechanical for her. Find a suitable place and time so that you can relax and focus on sex. Get a massage done, take a hot shower, do what it takes to get your mind into a sensual state.

What not surprise him 

Foreplay is essential in building ecstasy. But when you let your man do all work, it gets easier to zone out. You need to be actively engaged at all times. If you are feeling distracted, get on top, works his pleasure points or simply go down on him. Hearing him moan in pleasure will turn you on too.

Let’s talk Dirty!

The brain is a powerful sex organ and dirty talk is powerful stimulant. Putting into words how you feel or the things you want to do to  your partner activates all regions of the brain and intensifies the passion. Dirty talk is also a liberating experience that helps you express your desires. This breaks mental barriers and shakes inhibitions loose