Forbidden Love

Love has many definitions....lovers, poets, philosophers; saints have defined and redefined it time and again. Love has no reasons, gives no reasons. It simply enters one’s life without announcing. It is a feeling that smiles in the hearts of the lovers. Well, love means this and love means that. There are no barriers in love and a different kind of love can emerge like that between an elder woman and a younger man. 

Well, it is said that Love has its reasons of which reason knows nothing! No explanations can be given, it simply just happens. This is a complex situation and can definitely not be generalised. If the woman is three to four years elder to her man, it does not make much difference as they still belong to the same generation, for instance, Abhishek Bachchan is happily married to Aishwarya Rai who is elder to him by three years or actor Sunil Dutt was married to Nargis who was a little elder to him. But when the age difference between a man and his wife is more than ten years or so, this is certainly a psychological, deep-rooted case.

Love knows no boundaries but it would be wise to add a touch of sensibility to your affection towards such kind of a relationship otherwise there is bound to be heartburn and heartbreak at a later stage. So, if you are planning to take such kind of a plunge, hold on, take your time, think reasonably and then decide. Probably it is wiser to remain, friends, rather than enter into matrimony. It might be helpful also to take advice from a counsellor. The situation might sound tricky but there is nothing that cannot be solved with a little maturity, patience, wisdom and logic.

Here are some reasons why some men prefer older women:

Intellectual conversationalist: Younger men are looking for someone they can connect to and enjoy conversations with. Given that older women are more likely to have had more life experiences that enable them to have vast knowledge and a deeper understanding of world events. 

Older women know what they want: Young men appreciate a woman who is clear and focused on important things. Things that she is trying to accomplish that contribute to her full potential. We found that men perceive women younger than 30 have their priorities backwards. 

Mind-blowing freaky time:    After a woman turns 30 their sexual peak begins. They experience a bigger craving for sex from their partner. Additionally, these ladies are more open-minded to trying new things in-between the sheets. 

Ability to teach a young lad new things: Some younger men prefer older women for the simple fact that they can learn so much from her. They can attribute to several life experiences. Because a woman older than 30 will have had more experiences in life, she is more grounded and realistic about life.

Head games are for children: Another terrific quality that older woman possesses, and younger men seek, is that they don’t play head games. Younger ladies typically play too many games, cause confusion, and are too immature. The way mature woman carry themselves proves they know who they are. 

A motherly relationship: There are men out there who are in a relationship with someone older because they want to be taken care of. I am not referring to financial means this time. On the other hand, I am talking about emotional and mental types of support. 

Older women are independent: Because younger women have a need for a lot of attention a man may be turned off. Not that he doesn’t want to give attention to someone he is dating but the amount of attention and neediness differs a great deal between older ladies and younger ones. 

They have ready-made families: When a man cannot have children of his own he may seek out a woman who already has kiddos. The majority of older women, on the younger end of the spectrum, have had children. 

Children have left the nest: On the contrary, on the older end of the age spectrum, a woman’s children will be grown and have already left the nest. This allows a man to be with an older woman without the responsibility of raising her children.