Set up your boundaries!

Modern day society and lifestyle have brought many unusual issues and aspects that were irrelevant till only a few years back. Relationships thrive o love and trust and certain boundaries must be set up in order to have long-lasting relationships. There are many issues where boundaries need to be made when bonds are sensitive. 

For instance, one-night stands are on the rise and one such issue that is threatening to marriages and couples. An episode of one-night stand can rock the boat of a stable married life. Bollywood and Tollywood have whipped up melodrama about one-night   stand but in real life the issue of one-night stand on the side of either partner can cause a lot of heart burn and misunderstanding. 

Even though the foundation of happy marriages is based upon love and a one-night stand is certainly not enough to break up a marriage, but cracks in the relationship can occur. The basis of a good marriage is mutual respect, understanding and deep insight into each other’s’ likes and dislikes. These factors are more important than minor flings or one-night stands. When monotony sets in couples, they have to think up of new ways to keep their lives interesting rather than break each other’s trust.

Experts claim that though breaking boundaries can give an initial excitement but can ruin your relationship with your partner. It is a situation that is extremely difficult to accept. Says Savitha Rao a home-maker, “Both my husband and I have to travel very often, but breaking boundaries is most definitely a BIG no-no! Neither of us can accept this. It is not in good taste somehow.

For many couples it might not be a big deal but as they say to each one his own! Our society still does not have such advanced views. Maybe in the celeb circle this may be a routine thing but not in a common man’s life. I agree that most couples need space but sexual encounter outside marriage is something difficult to digest and endure in more than one way!”

Well, it is a fact that every couple is different from the other. Many comment that if once in a life time this happens it might be acceptable but a habit of it is not acceptable while others believe in relatively free marriages where breaking boundaries may not be such a big deal after all!

Says Captain Sudhir, a pilot by profession who travels a lot and many times is out of Hyderabad for days together, “People in travelling jobs might be tempted towards experimenting with boundaries more often than others stationed in the same city. But I personally feel that being physically loyal to your partner is a big thing. Such things might give momentary pleasure and may become difficult to handle.”

So, after all, breaking boundaries may not be such a fine idea. Apart from putting your marriage at stake you might be putting your own self-esteem at stake too. Firm values and a good foundation in relationships are more valuable than frivolous pleasures.

By: Shaili Dhagat