5 choices you'll regret forever

Bronnie Ware spent her career as a palliative care nurse, working exclusively with people who were 3 to 12 months from death. She made a habit of asking them about their greatest regrets, and she heard the same five regrets time and time again. By studying these regrets, you can make certain that you make good choices and don't fall victim to them yourself.

They wish they hadn't made decisions based on what other people think: The best way to avoid falling prey to the opinions of others is to realize that other people's opinions are just that—opinions. Regardless of how great or terrible they think you are, that's only their opinion. Your true self-worth comes from within.

They wish they hadn't worked so hard: Working hard is a great way to impact the world, to learn, to grow, to feel accomplished, and sometimes even to find happiness, but it becomes a problem when you do so at the expense of the people closest to you. Ironically, we often work hard to make money for the people we care about without realizing that they value our company more than money. The key is to find a balance between doing what you love and being with the people you love. Otherwise you'll look back one day and wish you'd focused more on the latter.

They wish they had expressed their feelings: We're taught as children that emotions are dangerous and that they must be bottled up and controlled. This usually works at first,but boxing up your feelings causes them to grow until they erupt. The best thing you can do is to put your feelings directly on the table. Though it's painful to initiate, it forces you to be honest and transparent.

For example, if you feel as though you don't make enough money at work, schedule a meeting with your boss and propose why you think you're worth more. As a result, she will either agree with you and give you a raise or disagree and tell you what you do need to do to become more valuable. On the other hand, if you do nothing and let your feelings fester, this will hinder your performance and prevent you from reaching your goal.

They wish they had stayed in touch with their friends: When you get caught up in your weekly routine, it's easy to lose sight of how important people are to you, especially those you have to make time for. Relationships with old friends are among the first things to fall off the table when we're busy. This is unfortunate because spending time with friends is a major stress buster. Close friends bring you energy, fresh perspectives, and a sense of belonging, in a way that no one else can.

They wish they had let themselves be happy: When your life is about to end, all the difficulties you've faced suddenly become trivial compared to the good times. This is because you realize that, more often than not, suffering is a choice. Unfortunately, most people realize this far too late. Although we all inevitably experience pain, how we react to our pain is completely under our control, as is our ability to experience joy. Learning to laugh, smile, and be happy (especially when stressed) is a challenge at times, but it's one that's worth every ounce of effort.

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