Sexual Healing-We are going to get married the next month, but my fiance has lost interest in sex

Our sex life has always been problematic, but he refuses to recognize it. Now, I'm afraid of ending up in a sexless marriage and I started looking at other men.

I love my fiance. He is kind, caring and makes me smile and laugh. We are going to get married next year, but one thing keeps taunting me: our sex life. It has never been great - to begin with, he had endurance problems - but now we have had sex only once in seven months. I tried to talk to him, but he keeps getting on and it just makes things worse. I look at other men and sometimes I dream. Do I have to get used to a life without sex?

Some people choose to enter or stay in a sexless marriage for various reasons. But sex is clearly important to you, so you have to make a choice. Your sexual relationship with your fiance will not improve on its own. First, take steps to try to revive eroticism between you. Do it gently: he probably does not want to answer it because he is embarrassed, ashamed or confused. Without blaming or shaming him, help him understand how important it is to solve this problem, and do not take no for answer. It does not mean giving him an ultimatum. Address him with love and understanding, and reassure him. His lack of interest can be motivated by many reasons, including his endurance problems. Difficulty maintaining an erection or climbing too fast are common problems that can be treated. Perhaps he is suffering from stress or a mood disorder that kills passion, such as depression or anxiety. Or maybe he is taking medication that affects his sexual response. You have to work as a team to understand that. You have endured this situation for a long time and I wonder why. Some people do not believe they have the right to ensure that their sexual needs are met - and make commitments and compromises that lead to long-term misery. Is it you? You must decide.