Breaking the stereotypes

True sexual freedom is to choose from array of options, says Rachel Hills, author of the recent best seller ‘The Sex Myth’

At a time when several stereotypes associated with sex and pornography are being broken and the millennial generation (those born after 1980) is willing to exercise their sexual freedom more than ever, celebrity millennial author Rachel Hills believes that sexual freedom means getting rid of the idea that some ways of being sexual are more moral or enlightened than others.

Hills recent bestseller ‘The Sex Myth: The Gap Between Our Fantasies and Reality’, says that true sexual freedom means people being able to make free decisions from a wide array of options rather than feeling like they need to follow a particular script.

"I think that as cultures grow more accepting of female desire, that increases the social permission for women to view things like pornography," Hills said.

At the same time, she also rejects the idea that as sexual freedom increases, everyone will start acting on that freedom in the same way - whether that means having sex six times per week, watching porn or something else.

"There are some people who would have sex every day if they could. But there are others who would be happy to do it once a month or less often. Neither way is better than the other.

The reality is that the human libido varies wildly," say Hills who writes for several international publications like the The Atlantic, Cosmopolitan, NYMag.com, The Sydney Morning Herald, TIME, and Vogue.

She takes up the abiding myths about sex that change with social norms, but impose a sort of control on our thoughts. "Sex is no longer just something we are told not to do, or else risk being judged as dirty and depraved. It is also something we must do, or else be declared pathetic, prudish and undesirable," she contends in her writings.

‘The Sex Myth,’ published in North America, Australia, New Zealand and the UK in August 2015, is about the invisible norms and unspoken assumptions that shape the way we think about sex.

"The book aims to relieve the pressure that so many people feel about their sex lives - this idea of how often, with whom, and how we have sex determines our desirability and our value as human beings," she explains.

By:Nishant Arora