Teach your kids forgiveness from childhood

Children who are prone to hyper-vigilance will turn into aggressive adults says a new study published by lead author Kenneth A. Dodge, Director of the Centre for Child and Family Policy at Duke University

Reacting to this observation, Dr Sreenivas, child psychiatrist said: “Hyper-vigilance is an enhanced state of sensory sensitivity accompanied by an exaggerated intensity of behaviors whose purpose is to detect threats”. “It is a natural human tendency to react with aggression if the opposite person has a hostile intention or planning to threaten, but coming to children who have grown up in hostile environment they tend to react more aggressively and act violently than the children who have grown up in a peaceful environment”, he adds.

Kalpana Sringar, a child psychiatrist points out various factors responsible for aggressive behaviour of the children. “Aggressive behaviour is not completely dependent on the atmosphere children grew, but also dependent on their daily routine and food habits,” shares Kalpana.

“Children now-a-days are glued to their mobile phone screens, they are very conscious over their social media presence and crave for acceptance among their social media peers, food is another important factor which is responsible for the change in behaviour; foods like pizzas, burgers and other kinds of fast-food will make children more aggressive”, she adds.

“We need to change how we socialise our children, to become more open minded and more forgiving this will help them in being less aggressive, most of the parents do not realise punishing is the best way keep their children in control but it in turn makes them hyper sensitive and aggressive”, Arpita Sharma, psychologist and a school counselor.

"Not only should we teach our children to do unto others as we would have them do unto ourselves, but also to think about others as we would have them think about us," Arpita added. “Punishing a child for every mistake is not just bad but is dangerous too.

Physical abuse will worsen the situation, so if the kid is very notorious or exhibiting aggressive behaviour it’s always better to consult a psychiatrist or to counsel him regularly which will help him in controlling and understanding kids emotions”, says Madhavi Mulugu, mother of two teenage children.

By: Vaishnavi Girish