Good Girls Gone Bad!!

Miranda Hobbs, a super successful lawyer who graduates straight out of Harvard, goes on to become an attorney, then a partner, and then a single mom out of a mere accident, ‘mercy sleeping’ with her ex-boyfriend Steve, to prove a point that he is still hot despite losing a testicle to cancer. This outrageously cynical character from the Sex and The City series epitomizes the present generation of women in powerful roles in the society, and their fathomable deficiencies in the matters of heart and relationships. Miranda Hobbs may be next only to the most celebrated characters Carrie the writer and Samantha the PR Head, but Miranda proves a point alright.

Yes, this is the American Television i’m talking about, yes, this culture is still a taboo in an Indian Civilization, and yes, these people still exist and yes, they are not very ‘celebrated’ in real life as compared to that of reel. We have many Mirandas in India; Single or married but single women in powerful positions, yet gone totally powerless in the matters of sentiments. Most of these women are not deprived – these women are not interested in serious relationships as they find it time consuming, exhausting, ‘loaded with emotional cry’ and an expense expended with no reason. They have four blockers to prepare, a client deal to close, a set up to acquire or a best seller to finish. Love, definitely, looks underrated in the midst of tight deadlines and oncoming takeovers in the mean world of men.

Why not? Isn’t that what men do as well?

The ideal set up in an Indian Civilization for a woman in the current means the following – study all you want, work till you are 25 maybe, explore whatever you need to, and then, please bend your head in matrimony. The realistic situation, on the other hand, is the growing number of powerful women with high profile jobs, expensive sedans, condos and active sex life. The women still have roots attached to the traditional ever existing nags from their families on the choice of life made to that of the more ‘comfortable’ one – a husband who may or may not waver, pregnancy and childbirth that will demand a sabbatical or a complete goodbye to careers, and reckless depressive choices made upon being left as neglected spouses. Why? Our mothers and grandmas have been dealing with cheating husbands, myriad partners and suppressed life, then so can we – but the most of us have chosen not to.

While the married life with compromises looks as ‘promising’ as it does with many sacrifices and less comforts, so does a life laden with independence and a great lifestyle with no strings attached. The only set back – societal acceptance which is slowly coming to terms and the women who have forgotten ‘emotions’ for the lack of time.

We belong to the likes of Sitas, Anasuyas and Draupadis – but we have come off age. The expectations that have been exorbitantly placed on Indian ‘Naaris’ are brutally crushed by these powerful women who will wear a tie and kick some asses in the board rooms. The need to express love has been pushed back and the urge to rule has crept in – I don’t see why this choice should NOT be respected in the changing world.

The thing is we women have stopped living in denial and started acting in defiance – if that includes lifestyle changes and culture shock – so be it. After all, it was the society and the careless men in our lives have driven us to do it, the tears shed in disappointments and heartbreaks would have led us to step over and step on to move ahead – while the West is celebrating the equality of sex, we shall go ahead and set the benchmarks.

And in the course of all this, if love COMES as it was promised by men over the decades, well…we will think about it...after this conference call please!!