Sex and love life

How to spice up sex life? “After four years of marriage, it all seems routine. How do I spice it up?” Riya sen, Mumbai

I’m not sure about rekindling the butterflies in stomach, but with a little effort you can certainly add spice and change the dynamic. Start with your environment - music, food, the works. After a week of festivities, ask your husband if he appreciated the efforts and then to help ideate on how he too could contribute to adding dimensions to your sex life and reinventing the relationship. Reading the Kamasutra and attempting some of the easy poses with a sense of humour is a good beginning.