Confident Women Are Self Made, They Are Not Born, So Quit Doubting

So I have a confession to make I’m often the fakest gal in a room. Not in the boob job, Botox kinda way, I say fake because the outward confidence I’m oozing and carefree nature I portray is really a complete front; inside I’m freaking out and second guessing everything, from my outfit choice and my hairstyle to whether or not anyone noticed me grabbing that morzarella stick.

And it’s not just me. When I brought up with my friends, most of the admitted they’re guilty of it, too. Turns out they’ve been faking it in the office, on dates, in interviews.. even at parties and family events. Why ladies, why? Ever since we were little, we’ve been told to fake it tip you make it. I’m sure the people who fed us this little pearl of wisdom had the best intentions but unfortunately, somewhere along the way, somebody forgot to teach us how to actually feel it.

Instead of telling people to fake it, I always prefer to tell them to make it. I believe the only thing that differentiates a highly confident and successful person from someone who isn’t is what each of them think of themselves if you’re going to use your energy to achieve something, you may as well use it wisely it takes a lot of energy to pretend to be, or feel, something you’re not.

Stop being so faux

It seems our effort to fake it is doing more harm than good. In a recent global beauty and confidence report four out of five girls said that weren’t confident and, of the 13 countries surveyed, india ranked 4th on the self esteem scale. Newsflash; confidence fakers like myself come in all different shapes and sizes and they’re impossible to single out. Even the women you’re looking to for inspo on social media can be crippled with self doubt behind their supposed picture perfect feed.

Listen up ladies

So can you actually learn how to to be confident? The number one way women sabotage their Confidence is being too judgemental of themselves. They need to learn to be kinder to themselves, love themselves and be their own best friend.

It’s time to make nice

Here’s the clincher: we need to stop worrying so much! According to research people who worry about workplace rejection or sabotage can bring it upon themselves; it can become self fulfilling. Other studies found people who focused on making good things happen were less likely to suffer from anxiety than those who focused on preventing bad things from occurring.