5 questions to ask the GUY

Caste and sub caste may still rule the matrimonial columns, but single seekers today are hung up on give equally non negotiable clauses, based on different value systems.

Children, fitness, social awareness and even vacation plans an prove to be deal breakers. Here are the questions to ask to see if you’re value compatible.

1)DO YOU WORK OUT?

Dr Jyoti 40, takes time off her busy schedule as a dentist in Hyderabad to go Gymming during lunch hour. Looking and feeling good are of utmost importance to Jyoti.

It’s important to do at least one thing just for yourself not for your family or for your profession, but just for yourself. The gym is my private indulgence. It was her husband, Bhaskar who influenced Jyoti to pay attention to her fitness and well being. Bhaskar loves yoga and takes very good care of his health and I’m following how lead now says Jyoti.

2) DO YOU DONATE?

Today, it’s not just about me and my family. It’s also about my city, my nation, and the world at large. Most women advocate practice a social cause. We dedicate ourselves to giving in a variety of ways. Nirmayee sanghavi comes from a family that has always nurtured social consciousness. At 29, she is one of the founder members of Down to Earth, an NGO that focuses on giving under privileged children equal opportunities in education and life skills.

My inspiration came from my mom, who said you can never sell education if you want to teach, teach those who can’t afford to buy education says nirmayee who believes that she learned and grown immensely as a person? Thanks to her involvement with the cause.

As for the Shangvi family, they are all in this together. Debates at the sanghvi dining table often revolve around which child needs more help. Her mother, father and sister fully support her initiative. So much so, that all pitch in when the need arises whether it is financial help or simply being the person who will serve meals on sports day.

3) DO YOU WANT KIDS?

The nuclear family is giving way to the family of two. When 32 year old Mansi Sanghvis husband. Dev, came to meet her parents for the first time, the younger couple laid down the rule there would be no biological kids. The sanghvi and Tayde seniors thought their kids would outgrow the stage mansi and dev don’t think so. Choosing not to dedicate their lives to kids gives them the freedom to offer our lives to something larger than just the two of us m.

That to the couple, means teaching slum children. Being a mother is not the be all and end all of a women’s life, says mansi. They are so many other roles that a women can play successfully when she channelises her being into becoming a mother.

4) DO YOU NEED TIME ALONE?
When it comes to personal space, marriage can cramp your style. But not couples at willing to make adjustments, as long as there is a my life in addition to our lives. Women today believe that completely immersing their life into that of their spouses leads to both partners feeling stifled.

Absolutely, agrees baroda based jasmine choksi, who sees her girls nights out as a necessity and is in the middle of planning a girlie vacation in September. Husband pylon is equally protective of poker Saturdays with his buddies.